Growing up, I remember that older people continually urged
me to enjoy my childhood and youth. Like many of you, I longed for a time when
I could chart my own destiny and engage the world independently. Marrying young
allowed that to happen much faster than I thought.
When you are young, it seems like everyone feels a need to
offer-intentioned advice that never quite seems to fit. Those same adults that
counseled patience and presence at the moment said something that I always